Children, toddlers, preschools … will it be easier, or is it just different?


My children are now adults for children, and I have just submitted a school application for my smallest.

Flashback to the last time I had a good night's sleep

Flashback to the last time I had a good night's sleep

I have begun going a little bit from my sleepy baby sickness (I'm no less ditsy, I just have no excuse now) and is no longer the person who rolls my eyes as others offer ridiculous advice like "it's going so fast" and "they will sleep at the end ". Now I suppose I'm more likely to be the annoying person who offers the advice (sorry, I'm not trying).

It does not really Go fast, definitely not then, but I look back wondering where the years have gone and thinking about how many things have changed. In some ways it becomes much easier. In others, young children are harder than children.

Here are some of the things I've found easier and more difficult:

simpler:

My children can now communicate their desires and needs in words rather than cool sobs and screams. Some of the things they say are hilarious.

20/11/18-OFF then

Harder:

They do not stop communicating. Ever. I swear my talk is constantly from the moment they wake up until they fall asleep with the odd chatter while they are dreaming. However, that does not mean they are listening.

… Plus, children who can not speak can not say embarrassing things publicly or tell the teacher you said a rude word.

simpler:

No diapers, no potty training. We are Done.

20:11:18-from-potty-training

Harder:

I have to always notice where the nearest toilets are, remember to get them to loo before each trip, and if accidents occur, I rarely be well prepared.

simpler:

They do not need to rock to sleep, there are no night feeds and I rarely see long periods at night unless there is any sick.

20/11/18-from-co-sleeping

Harder:

They have a million apologies to not go to bed, and once in a good night's sleep is definitely not a valid conclusion. I stop sharing my bed much more than I would like and they take up a lot of space. Plus when they kick it it is painful.

simpler:

No bottles to make up, do not try to find places to sit and breastfeed – hold a bottle of water and a biscuit in your bag and you're ready for anything. They do not make an epic touch with every yogurt.

20/11/18-from-weaning

Harder:

When they got lost, they both ate something, but now they have very firm thoughts about what they want and not eating. And often it changes from day to day, although we never make it far past a Pizza Express without any reason to go inside …

simpler:

With preschool and school, I no longer have the dreaded mothers debt if we do not do hundreds of different children's groups. I take some time with myself, and I can drink as many cups of tea as I want!

20:11:18-from-tea

Harder:

It can be very lonely to be home without structured activities during the daytime … Plus, when they are gone in the wide world, you have no control over who they socialize with and hide you into a whole new world of troublesome moments.

simpler:

I do not have a monster double stroller to squeeze into the back of a car, I can use public transport without worrying about the fact that there is no space or day trips without fear of relying on the friendliness of strangers to help me bumping a buggy down an escalator.

20/11/18-OFF stroller

Harder:

Times were much easier when I could only cure them and get on my way. They could not walk in the wrong direction or give me a heart attack by entering the road because they did not look where they went.

And they complain when they get tired! They are too heavy to wear now, so we just have to wait for it. In addition, I have to actually carry my shopping …

simpler:

No more Peppa Pig!

20/11/18-from-paw-patrol

Harder:

Paw Patrol. Endless Paw Patrol.

In summary …

It is easier, and harder, while I'm sure it will continue to be for a long time yet.