How to French Kiss – How to Kiss with the Tongue

My first French kiss was my second second kiss-that was intentional, because I died to get rid of my kiss-with-heavy virgin before the 8th degree. Here's what I remember about it: We were at the back of a movie theater (I *think* one of Ocean river& # 39; s movies played), and his tongue tasted like milk, probably from the buttery popcorn we ate. But it's about it.

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I share this to make sure nobody remembers the optics of their first solid makeout session, as everyone is as scared to enter it. That does not mean you can not prepare! And those who have kissed the tongue many times can always stand to learn more ~ ​​technicians ~.

Here's a step-by-step guide to fun and good French kisses, affording advice directly from the French women's tongues themselves (although none of them really know why this kiss is labeled French to begin with).

The origins of Why This kissy style is "French" is shady. Some say that it suggests the stereotype that French people are widely known to be promiscuous. Anne, a 31-year-old French woman, thinks it has more to do with the French word for "tongue".

Kissing is a love language.

"The French word for heavy, langue, is the same word we use for languages, says Anne. "I definitely think kissing is a love language – if you can not kiss me properly, you're clearly communicating that you're probably (definitely) terrible in bed."

Whatever origin, when someone says "French Kiss", they generally mean some kisses where the tongue is involved. But Iris, a 23-year-old French woman, further defines the French kiss as "long-term kissing with tongue, that is,"

Sometimes it is also called "frenching", "swapping spit" or (my personal favorite) "tonsil hockey."

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Step 1: Create a kissing partner

You can kiss the hole that your hand does when you shape it into a fist, but your hand is not heavy and can not kiss back. So it's generally best to kiss a consent and willing human partner on their mouths.

Perhaps is someone you have a love on? Or someone you meet? Or a cute boy you agree to meet in a cinema? It does not matter! They should only be someone whose tongue you want to feel in your mouth.

Step 2: Determine a kissing place

From my own experience, I can say that the rear row of a cinema is quite good. But you can try somewhere: A field with a good wind, a sports field under buzzing light, your porch after a date, a park bench etc.

Some places you may not want to kiss? Everywhere it's stupid, because it's gross. And maybe save it for later if you are in front of your parents or in the middle of a crowded restaurant and people are waiting for your table. In other words, make sure you both feel comfortable and have adequate privacy.

Step 3: Find your partner's mouth

This is crucial because you do not want to miss his mouth and wrap your tongue in your nostrils or eyes. You're laughing, but it's definitely happened.

Step 3: Heat up with light hand and pepper

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You have to go before you can run, and you have to kiss regularly before you can kiss the French. It is very unpleasant and unpleasant for someone to swallow the tongue directly in someone else's person! You can prepare yourself for this one you want, but general best practice is to start with something nice, like a mild shoulder contact and some easy pisses.

Step 4: Make sure they are DTMO

There are very few hard and fast rules for French kisses, but one is to always make sure your partner is DTMO, or down to do it. If they are not, return to light touch and pee.

Step 5: Lean into the kiss

This is done best slowly, so that you do not tap the boils or noses and cause damage.

Step 6: Slowly share your lips

Before you slip the tongue into your partner's mouth, you should slowly, carefully Divide your lips so that they know what to expect. No one likes the tongue hiding.

Step 7: Place the tip of the tongue in your mouth

Thus, the French part of this kiss begins. Your tongue is bigger than you think, and it may be that your partner's mouth is smaller than it looks, so you should start this by just laying a tuna of the tongue beyond its lips.

Step 8: Alternative speed and heavy pressure

Change your movements: Just drop a little in your mouth and try so much. But do not keep your mouth gap open all the time (it's rude, and you'll drive). Instead, think of your two tongues engaged in a dance – do not dominate their mouths, but let your two tongues work together.

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If and when you need to get up some air (although you should breathe through your nose as you walk out), pull in your tongue and bite your partner's lip. It's a hot move that lets them ask for more.

Step 9: Kiss for as long as you want

There are no rules for how long a French kiss should go. Maybe you're sick of this after just 10 seconds. It is okay! Maybe you kiss as long as your jaw hurts. Ouch! But that is also good.

Step 10: Get off and smile

It's nice to be logged in. This reassures your partner you had a nice time … and hell yes, you would be down to kiss again.

French Kisses Dos and Don'ts

Here's what the French consider to be the basic label rules for doing as a pro:


"Move with the other person, answer the signals, switch it up, just generally be in line with each other and do not consider it. "-Iris, 23

"I think everything is in touch with the other person. Even if you're a good kisser, If you do not put any feelings in it, it will not be sensational. "-Gaëlle, 18

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"A good French kiss is a passionate. If you just move your lips and tongues around speechlessly, let's just not say we did it … "Constance, 24

"Actually, the person likes a French kiss big. I always like it when a guy kisses me and opens my mouth and lets me set the beat – a French kiss. It's small first and then you can go on it. And when you go to the super near. I'm a fan of a butt or a hand on my neck. "-Anne, 31


"Churning the tongue around the washing machine style is quite a bad shape, which is some kind of slobbering. I think many of these things come from convincing kisses, or when the two people are not compatible. You can tell a lot about a relationship from how the (French) kisses feel. "-Iris, 23

"The only thing that should never happen during a French kiss is puts the tongue down in the neck of the other person. I've been there, it's really not sensual. "-Gaelle, 18

"Get that slobber under control. And definitely read the feeling of how much the other person wants the tongue to move around. I have had both extremities of a tongue that is a deadweight blood that rests in my mouth, or a very aggressive tongue that just seems to just want to make some sparring with my tongue. "-Constance, 24

"Do not shoot the whole tongue in my mouth, especially if you have a big tongue. I'm getting it, it's good to go down on me, my mouth is not my vagina. Do you know the audience and body. do not dance in school and try to kiss me when our bodies do not touch. I once had a guy go in for what I thought was a peck (our bodies were two feet apart) and it was heavy first. My ovaries pulled straight into my sternum. "-Anne, 31

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