How to use a dildo


If you are even far familiar with the human anatomy, a dildo seems quite self-explanatory. Like their IRL counterparts, dildos have no nice watches or whistles like most vibrators do. It's just okay, it's a cock. A plastic bag.

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But do not let it bear you. Think of dildos like a blank canvas on which you can explore all your sex toys dreams. Whether you're a certified dildo enthusiast or on the brink of buying your very first, here's all you may need to know about using a dildo.


Step 1: Get the right size dildo

Like penis, dildos come in all shapes and sizes. All of this range is for one reason: This is basically your only chance to find the perfect peen and start it in your life through your wallet.

In terms of size (which refers to both length and perimeter), it's better to start small and then work you up, says Dulcinea Pitagora, a psychotherapist and sex therapist. "You can get bigger enjoyment of larger sizes when you are more excited," says Pitagora.

With that said, if you're someone who knows you prefer a broader edge, go out and buy a broader dildo. Or if you plan to use it for anal stimulation, find a shape that is narrow at the end and wider toward the base.

Step 2: Think about the material

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Unlike Penis, Dildos come in a variety of materials. "They can be expensive, but it's worth investing in the best quality dildo you can afford, because it will be longer at the end," says Pitagora.

Body-proof silicone is your best bet because it is non-porous and easiest to clean (you can sterilize it by placing it in boiling water). But if you want something that looks like modern art and feel extremely smooth, or if you're in temperature play, you can also buy a glass or a metal.

Pitagora also recommends watching dildo's shots and backs (if any): Does this model have an even shaft or ridgy? And do you think your vagina will like it?

"There is no right or wrong when choosing textures and shapes," says Pitagora. "I recommend that you go to sex toys and feel a variety of things. Follow your instinct to someone you are drawn to. Or take your time shopping online and try to order from a site with reviews so you can read how others have experienced product. "

Step 3: Grease it up

You can basically use a dildo, but you want: During masturbation and or under partner sex, as long as you have consent. Always use lubricants. Even if your chosen D is smooth, the lubricant will only make it narrower and help stimulate excitement for you, whether you're alone or with someone else. In other words, do not sleep on dildo lubrication!

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Step 4: Use it correctly

If this is a dildo you plan to use with several partners, put a condom on it just as you would have an IRL penis.

"You absolutely must use a condom on your dildo if it's made of porous material, "adds Dr. Deb Laino, a sex therapist and sex teacher. So if it's made of a dirty gel-like material, put it up. Otherwise, you can put yourself or your partner in risk zone for infection or STI.

The other equally important dildo rule is the same as for all sex toys: If it has just been in an anus, do not put it in a vagina or mouth. The bacteria that live in / on a body part can be transferred to other body parts, which can lead to infection. Therefore, it is important that you clean a dildo completely before using it for different purposes or with different partners.

Step 5: Clean the dildo

Silicone silos have extra bonus for easy cleaning, because you can only throw them in boiling water for a few minutes and voila, clean. Dr. Laino says that glass, metal, plastic or skin-resistant rubber particles can be washed with warm water and a mild unscented soap. Regardless of the material, make sure your dildo is thoroughly dried before removing it to avoid (gag alert) mold.

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